What exactly are all of us
doing as a nation? Banning a few cabs will help curb crimes against women? NO.
The problem is somewhere else and to really deal with the problem we need to
understand the male psyche.
Males have always been
telling females to do this and that, little minding their own business and
their eyes. They would want their wives to be covered in pallu while themselves
ogling at girls half their age.
Two recent movies dish out
very rightly the plight of an Indian male. It was enlightening to watch “Ek Villain”.
Poor guy, the villian, was considered a devta by her wife, so he had to unleash
his villainous terror on other nagging females.
Then there is the more
recent “Rang Rasiya”, which is a great movie and a must watch for Indian
audience. The film makes a humble effort to accept our needs, our desires and
instead of being a professing self-righteous hypocrite to actually accept our
sexuality.
We still associate guilt and
shame with our sexual expressions. We still have khaaps to monitor whom we
love. We still hang and murder our children if they marry out of caste. We are
quick to forgive the politicians who are discovered with “girlfriends” and
“keeps” outside marriage, but we look down upon Dharmendra, Boney Kapoor, Amir
Khan etc for marrying the love of their lives. This I am speaking of society at
large and Indian mindset on the whole.
Just as a female is brought
up telling males as being superiors, Indian males have been told to behave as “maryada
purushottam” in society. The sexually repressed Indian male is left little to
do besides ogling, watching porn, sharing lewd jokes, touching a female in
appropriate places etc
Such men, in action, is what
we call rape. That’s the criminal mindset. TRUE. But what to do of it ? Why not
nip in bud when the feeling to overpower a woman comes in the mind of a male. That
starts in the classroom and there is far greater need for sex-education in our
society. The puritans can add Religious and Moral education to make it more
palatable.
Total revamp of our laws is
needed related to females, exploitation, marriage, divorce etc. We can’t move
in cart on 4 lane driveway. We have changed in dressing, in eating, in our
relationships. We need to adapt ourselves with changing times with our needs.
How many more girls need to
be raped for overhauling of our legal system? How long will I be scared to move
alone at night or be stared at or touched? How long will I ignore lewd
comments, jokes and passes? It’s time we become civilized and equal in reality.
It’s time we become humans.
