ANEK VILLAINS

What exactly are all of us doing as a nation? Banning a few cabs will help curb crimes against women? NO. The problem is somewhere else and to really deal with the problem we need to understand the male psyche.

Males have always been telling females to do this and that, little minding their own business and their eyes. They would want their wives to be covered in pallu while themselves ogling at girls half their age.

Two recent movies dish out very rightly the plight of an Indian male. It was enlightening to watch “Ek Villain”. Poor guy, the villian, was considered a devta by her wife, so he had to unleash his villainous terror on other nagging females.

Then there is the more recent “Rang Rasiya”, which is a great movie and a must watch for Indian audience. The film makes a humble effort to accept our needs, our desires and instead of being a professing self-righteous hypocrite to actually accept our sexuality.

We still associate guilt and shame with our sexual expressions. We still have khaaps to monitor whom we love. We still hang and murder our children if they marry out of caste. We are quick to forgive the politicians who are discovered with “girlfriends” and “keeps” outside marriage, but we look down upon Dharmendra, Boney Kapoor, Amir Khan etc for marrying the love of their lives. This I am speaking of society at large and Indian mindset on the whole.

Just as a female is brought up telling males as being superiors, Indian males have been told to behave as “maryada purushottam” in society. The sexually repressed Indian male is left little to do besides ogling, watching porn, sharing lewd jokes, touching a female in appropriate places etc

Such men, in action, is what we call rape. That’s the criminal mindset. TRUE. But what to do of it ? Why not nip in bud when the feeling to overpower a woman comes in the mind of a male. That starts in the classroom and there is far greater need for sex-education in our society. The puritans can add Religious and Moral education to make it more palatable.

Total revamp of our laws is needed related to females, exploitation, marriage, divorce etc. We can’t move in cart on 4 lane driveway. We have changed in dressing, in eating, in our relationships. We need to adapt ourselves with changing times with our needs.

How many more girls need to be raped for overhauling of our legal system? How long will I be scared to move alone at night or be stared at or touched? How long will I ignore lewd comments, jokes and passes? It’s time we become civilized and equal in reality. It’s time we become humans.